DEAR AMBER: I’m getting married in May and recently sent out my Save the Dates. Since my fiancé and I are paying for the majority of the wedding, we had to limit our guest count to family and only our very closest friends. I have some holiday parties coming up where friends that we weren’t able to invite will be in attendance. I’m worried that the topic of the wedding will come up and make for an awkward situation with those not invited. What’s the best way to handle this potentially uncomfortable situation?
DEAR JESSICA: I can completely relate to your situation. The important thing to keep in mind is that no bride & groom can invite everyone they know. If they’re acquaintances of yours, they’ll understand. It sounds like your guest count might be on the smaller side. If the topic of your wedding comes up with anyone not invited, and it most likely will, politely answer their question and mention that the wedding will be a small, intimate affair. As we caution all of our brides here at VOWS, scaling back your guest count is the number one way to save money on your wedding, so stick to your guns. Don’t sweat it and Happy Holidays!
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