By: Katy Roberts (formerly Griffiths), VOWS Owner, Lead Planner/Designer
It was one month yesterday that I’ve been married to my dear Ty. Looking back to the day makes me smile and that’s what I hope for any bride. Being a bride myself has freshened my memory (I was married once before 10 years ago when just starting VOWS) to the importance of being stress free and truly at peace on your day.
Ty and I went to extreme lengths to ensure this, which isn’t for everyone: no bridal party, small guest list (only 19 attended our celebration in Maui), simple decor (worked with the venue’s natural beauty), and limited amount of vendors (our photographer was also our musician during dinner, our officiant was her husband and 2nd shooter). We also made sure we had the venue the entire day, so we could show up early, get settled, eat lunch and have plenty of time for beauty, getting ready and photos.
I purposely scheduled down time between photos and guest arrival to get off my feet, have some water, freshen up and we even snuck in a glass of champagne! The caterer said we were the first couple he had poured champagne for prior to the wedding. And yes, we did choose to see each other before which I truly believe reduces anxiety and makes the day more fun. You get to spend more of the day with your love, so you can focus on what is truly important. Ty and I even got ready together. I did do a dress reveal, but it was casual and silly. It was great to share the full wedding day experience and be able to chat and be near each other as the nerves built before the ceremony.
I also learned that destination weddings are a leap of faith. If you don’t have the budget to fly to your location before the wedding, you can’t know exactly how a chair will look, the exact color of the table linen, you can’t plan out where each photo will be taken. If you’re having a destination wedding, you just have to relax and let those things go a bit (and trust your planner). It’s secretly freeing. Everyone at your wedding is just in awe of their surroundings and in “vacation mode”, so they really don’t care about how their napkin is folded.
Maui, Hawaii is one of those places I’ve known since I was a kid. Being from Portland, Oregon, my parents were big on traveling to warm places in the winter and Maui was always a favorite. It’s warm climate, breathtaking scenery, spectacular wildlife, and laid back vibe is truly peaceful. I had the sun shining on my face during the ceremony with whales breaching in the ocean as our backdrop. We were surrounded by those that truly loved us. I got closer to God that day than I ever have. I feel truly blessed and lucky for getting a second chance at life and love. It was the wedding of our dreams and though cliché, it did come true. Unconventional and not for everyone, but it was a day that marks the beginning of a long, happy journey for Ty & I. Aloha!
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Venue: Olowalu Plantation House
Photographer/Ukulele: Sandra Coan Photography
Officiant: Peter Czark
Planning, Design & Day-of Coordination: VOWS Wedding & Event Planning
Bride’s Hair: Melissa L. at Plush Beauty Lounge
Catering: Cafe O’Lei
Flowers: Bella Grace
Rentals: Pacific Isle Rentals
Invitations, Menu/Place cards: Paper Moxie
Customized Luggage Tags: Etsy